A few years ago, my mentor & life coach asked me to write a letter to myself as a child. What would I say to 'her' after almost 50 yrs of experience. It was an interesting exercise that left me ignited with positivity. I'd recommend this very personal exercise to anyone.
I'm being vulnerable and very open with sharing this, so please bear with me. Soon, Modern Widows Club online magazine will launch and we will welcome you sharing your stories & letters to your 'inner child'.
Sincerely,
Dear ‘Little’ Carolyn, July
2008
You are special. You are
going to experience an abundant life and you are going to be strong and
courageous.
Those dreams in your head
are ‘seeds’ for your future- hold onto them until you see them come true! Don’t
give up because you my dear have the determination like no other to actually
see it through. YOUR ideas will bring others alive—they will see your
enthusiasm and follow your lead. You have the ability to help others see their
own dreams.
Be patient with yourself,
be kinder to people- especially your family. You will learn a great deal about
yourself from your family experiences and that knowledge will benefit you when
you have your own family someday.
Life isn’t always going to
seem like it makes sense- but, to God it does.
If you keep remembering
that God is the father you look to for everything, you will no doubt be a
grateful person for everything in your life. Humanely fathers are meant to
protect, support you, but will fail you in some way.
Humans are not perfect, and
that is why we have forgiveness. There will be lots of forgiveness.
Being humble is also a hard
one- especially for you little miss independent! No one will teach you how to
do this and your own nature will prevent you from seeing the value &
necessity of this—but you will learn it as life goes on. Unfortunately, the
hard way! All a part of God’s plan….so, again, have patience.
The good news is your
suffering will end with you. And your children will benefit from all of your
experiences and will definitely flourish in life. Rest assured.
You know innately how to
make good choices for yourself- listen to that inner voice and trust that God
will bring into your life everything you’ve ever imagined and hoped.
You will always be safe and
protected, so be sure to be grateful for each day, each person and each
breathe.
There is so much to do with
a LIFE and so much for you to become. Be happy when you find it and during
the process—especially the PROCESS…. because that’s a beautiful part that
should not be overlooked.
Plant flowers, smile, share
yourself, cry if you feel it, have those difficult talks, surprise yourself, do
something strange, swim naked, lay in the grass, feel the sun on your face, pet
a kitten and make it purr, watch a mommy bird bring worms to her chicks, eat
fresh foods, smell the roses, jasmine & daffodils, surround yourself in
orange, mentor a young girl, be open minded to knowledge, read God’s Words,
listen when someone is talking to you, make others feel understood, admit when
you are really wrong, take time to really care and act on that caring, share-
share- share what God gives you, read, learn new words everyday, create a
peaceful bedroom, know you are loved more than you could ever imagine, find
something you love to do and get paid for it, tell others close to you about
your fears and then let them go, journal, take your arms and wrap them around
yourself (yes, give hugs to yourself daily), feel the peace within.
Love,
Carolyn Caple Moor (the
‘older’ Carolyn)
